On our first date Jason told me he’d like to have more kids. I could tell that he was a good dad by the way he talked about Makaela. It also spoke volumes to me that he had full custody and was able to put himself through graduate school while he was a single parent working full time. At times I honestly didn’t know how he did it all.
As our relationship got more serious and I was more involved in the day to day care of Makaela, I came to the realization that I didn’t want to have any children of my own. I made this decision mainly because of my age and Makaela’s age. I couldn’t imagine having a teenager and a toddler at the same time and both Jason and I continuing to work full time. I also looked into the future and thought seriously about how long it would be until Makaela graduated from high school. Did we want to be kid-free in 7 years or 20?
So, the time came when I needed to approach the topic with Jason, knowing what he had said on our first date. I had come to my conclusion so it was only fair that I shared this with him so that he could make a decision on what he wanted. So, I invited him to a happy hour at a local brewery and brought up the topic. I let him know that I loved him very much but that I didn’t want to have any children, sharing the reasoning I shared above. I gave him an out, letting him know that I would understand if he wanted to end things and find someone that wanted to have more children with him. He didn’t hesitate, he said that he wanted to be with me and understood where I was coming from and was on the same page.
That conversation led to the marriage conversation. I had a feeling that he wouldn’t want to get married again but found out that he did, when he found the right person for he and Makaela. He asked where I stood and I said that I was happy with the way things were but that someday I would like to get married as well.
All the anxiety I had going into this conversation was soon put to rest and we enjoyed the rest of our night. I can’t imagine my story if that conversation had gone another direction.
Anyone that knows me well knows that I love the Bachelor / Bachelorette shows - happy to say I got his final rose (totally cheesy right!?!).
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